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Would you know how to support a friend who came out as trans or non-binary?

15th - 22nd March 2024

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5-11 votes


11-16+ votes


Total votes

In light of the consultation on the DfE’s gender questioning children guidance and the current discussions of trans and non-binary young people in the media, voters explored the concept of allyship. They assessed the qualities needed to be an effective ally, and when & where to utilise these.

Secondary, 16+ & College voters were asked: “Would you know how to support a friend who came out as trans or non-binary?”, Primary 7-11 voters discussed: “Do you know how to be an ally?” and Primary 5-7 voters considered: “Do you know what an ally is?”

Support Trans Non-binary #1

Age 5-11 voter

I know that if I stick up for someone when something wrong is happening I am an ally. We can be a voice for someone else. Telling someone when you see or hear something that is not okay.

Support Trans Non-binary #2

Age 11-16 voter

It's such a new topic that feels incredibly sensitive so we're more unsure if we'd do the right thing.

Support Trans Non-binary #3

Age 16+ voter

We don't know how to support them, but we do need to have allyship, as it is important.

80% of 5-7-year-olds were confident with the definition of an 'ally' by the end of their VotesforSchool's lesson.

  • Primary pupils aged 5-7 were asked, “Do you know what an ally is?”
  • A confident 80% voted 'Yes'.
80% of 7-11-year-olds said that they knew how to show allyship.

  • Primary pupils aged 7-11 were asked to consider, “Do you know how to be an ally?”
  • 80% voted 'Yes', with many giving examples of how they could be an ally.
  • These included advocating for those who needed it and speaking out against injustice.
65% of 11-16-year-olds said they wouldn't know how to support a friend who came out as trans or non-binary.

  • Secondary, College and 16+ students were asked, “Would you know how to support a friend who came out as trans or non-binary?”
  • Interestingly, 65% of Secondary students voted 'No' but 56% of 16+ & College students voted 'Yes'.
Many students argued that they had more to learn and didn't feel fully equipped to support their friends in this situation.

  • The most common reason for voting 'No' appeared to be that students didn't feel confident how to handle the situation appropriately and sensitively.
  • Some said they wanted to discuss this at school so that they'd know how to support any friends in this situation.